Get over yourself
August 14, 2006
Yes breakups are hard. We get it! Nevertheless, the focus should be on getting over them. If you know in 
your heart of hearts that’s is over, why can’t you move on? Could it be that you are obsessed with yourself. Yes, it sounds rather harsh, but it does happen. Depression can be avoided if your mind is in the right place. It is difficult to “move on” if you are constantly focusing on what you did wrong or why your partner decided to call it quits.
In most cases the failed relationship never got off the ground. It could be that both of you were not compatible or that your partner never revealed his or her true self to begin with. Believe it or not, most breakups that do not involve infidelity are not anyone’s fault. If you cheated on someone or someone cheated on you, the problem is clear. A trust was broken, someone was hurt, yet you have to move on. Can you blame someone. Sure, why not? Blame human nature for its tendency to look for greener grass. blame your ex-partner for not having the courage to tell you the truth. You can also blame yourself for 
not knowing what was going to happen. Just keep in mind that in the end, it will not help you in any way to cast blame. Getting over the pain involves work and focus. Self improvement and reflection are key components of healing after a break up.
On the other hand, if you and your partner parted without a third party involved, then count your blessings and get on with the healing. If someone broke up with you because they did not see a future for the relationship, then please appreciate how lucky you are. You get to find someone that loves you for you. “Moving on” requires learning and courage. It requires courage to face the future with an open mind. It also requires that you implement what you learned in your previous relationship to succeed in your next.
Learning cannot come about if you are obsessed with yourself. You need to look at the situation objectively. To do this you need perspective. Yes it helps in some cases to look inwardly, but not to the 
extent that your feelings are all that you see. Get over yourself and come back better than ever. In this article you will find out how to be part of the elite crowd Psychology Today calls, “The Thick Skinned”.
“Say someone isn’t paying you enough attention. You brood and brood. “Is she mad at me?” “Did I say something wrong?” Your gloomy thoughts intensify, leaving you emotionally crippled and thinking that you have ruined everything…”
Did Someone Cheat on You?
July 29, 2006
Listen, I’ve been cheated on. Most will say it creates a different kind of broken heart. I like to call it an angry heart. The longer the affair the greater the broken (or angry) heart. There is a lot you can do. My advice is improve yourself. Get in shape, do well at work and prepare yourself for the best revenge of all - success. The more you seek self improvement the better off you are. The pitfall of this plan of course is depression. Depression drains you of all the energy you need to heal. Depression is the only thing that will get in your way. Now you may be asking yourself, “what do I do about that? ” The answer is simple - get mad! Use your anger as the impetus for self improvement. I did this, it works like a charm. Few people realize how powerful and positive anger can be. Society tells us that anger is a bad thing.
I used the following list of tips to heal myself after an ugly break up. The list is great because of its simplicity. Follow the simple tasks that are laid out for you as you pursue success. Remember when we say success, we mean in health. If you are physically healthy, your mind and heart will follow. Focus on work or your craft. You will be surprised at how a broken heart helps with your focus. Your focus will be narrow, so take advantage of that. Feel free to comment on this topic, we will get back to you…
“People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you’re suffering from one, it sure doesn’t feel that way–at least initially. These suggestions may help you navigate the painfully troubled waters of a relationship that has ended…”
Breakups Don’t Have to Be a Bad Thing!
July 27, 2006
It’s like we always say, “Breakups are a window into new opportunities…” Sometimes if you work fast, external relationships (family, friends, pets etc.) can be salvaged. Hey we just report this stuff…
“It would be fair to say that Ezra is one of the great loves of my life. After all, it was through him and our daughter, Elenni, that I learned the lesson of a lifetime–that we each have power to transform fear of the unknown into unconditional love.”
