To Make Up Or Break up, Is That The Question?

Far be it from me to philosophize much about life. But once when I was in a particularly reflective mood, I noticed that when I became angry, and acted out on that anger; I had less control over who I was and what I was about. I instantly became much less intelligent and voluntarily reduced my options to a mere few. It was then that I realized that anger is a cancer and eats you alive from the inside out; and if that’s not bad enough, it makes you stupid and act irrationally. That’s not a hat trick that I wanted to score. If you knew me you’d realize that this was a milestone in the progress of my thinking. As we all know, if there’s one thing that can grind your gears, it’s a relationship on the rocks. An honest and wise person knows that revenge does not taste sweet, a less wise person knows that neither does drinking a half dozen scorpion bowls at the local Chinese joint trying to suppress the pain.

So how do you end a relationship with both dignity and sobriety? The second question I’m still working on, but I think I might have an answer for the first question. This means that you must first get off y our high horse and prepare to take the high road instead. In fact, I may have an answer for a third question that hasn’t even been asked yet. “What are you talking about rambling dude“, you exclaim? “My relationship is rocky, but what if I want to save my relationship” you ask? Perfect, I knew you would go there! Part of life is nothing more than a series of mistakes and learned lessons; it’s as inevitable as death and taxes and about as much fun.

As we blindly muddle along in life, we learn more about ourselves and others, it builds character; what doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger blah, blah, blah. You may not have learned your lesson yet, but that’s okay, I can help you with that one as well. It’s a lucky thing that you stumbled on to this article by golly. Although, if I help you with that third question, I deny all responsibility for the final outcome.

If all this sounds like I am sour on the ways of love and life; nothing could be further from the truth. If I hadn’t experienced all of the pain and agony of past failed relationships, then learned from them, then I wouldn’t be in the wonderful, fulfilling marriage that I now wake up to every morning (that ought to score some points with the wife). I would still be trying to rule my life and others with the sole force of my ego, rather than bowing down and saying I’m sorry and I was wrong. Or saying, “hey this isn’t working and here’s why.” Too often it was more like “oh yeah I’ll show you!” Even if you meet Mr. or Mrs. right, that attitude wont take you very far in any relationship. Swearing to go wee wee on someone’s eternal resting place is not exactly a recipe for living happily ever after, no matter how good it feels at the time.

Knowing when to hold em’ or when to fold em’ is a question that only you can answer. Reflect inward and be honest with yourself. Only you can call that one. People are complicated, relationships are twice as complicated. Look inward, at your own heart rather than the advice of friends. Unless you have a really kinky relationship, your friends are not around when you share your most intimate, personal moments with your significant other. So how are they to judge?

Once you have made that gut wrenching decision, that’s where we come in. I believe the answers to the first and third questions at the beginning of this article may be as simple as a greeting card. It may even help with the second problem by reducing your over-all guilt and pain and thereby reduce the tendency to binge drink if you are so inclined. What I am talking about here is not a “Hallmark moment.” However; there is a greeting card that “tastefully expresses and dignifies the end of a relationship”. This same company produces cards that say I’m sorry, if your not20willing to give up on that same treasured, blissful coexistence.

Who would need a break-up or make-up greeting card you ask? Why does anyone buy any greeting card? Why not just say I’m sorry or you gotta go now or I love you? Firstly, greeting cards simply articulate what we are unable to say ourselves. Sometimes so much better. If they rhyme than so much better still. In the case of a break-up card, if it’s written in a non-angry, non-bitter; you go your way and I’ll go my way sort of style, than it’s completely acceptable. Secondly, because all too often, abuse is a factor in a failed relationship, one may not want to face their significant other when announcing an intent to separate or divorce.

Since all too often relationships end as a result of abuse, then it seems logical that our company take a stand and donate some of our profits to shelters to help with transitional shelter in the event of abuse. That’s exactly what we vow to do! We pledge to donate 50% of our profits to Woman’s shelters to help victims of domestic abuse! Eventually we hope to develop into a total not-for-profit agency. The name of our company is Skidmark CardsÔ . Our tag line is: “When that relationship come to a screeching halt”.

What ever your present or future relationships hold in store for you, please don’t let anger be an overwhelming factor. Just let them know that either your sorry and will try harder in the future, or if all else fails, damn it, you deserve better.

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