Analyzing the love reaction will help you cope with loss…

Analyzing love is a great coping mechanism when dealing with lost love.  It turns out that analyzing, what we call, the love reaction helps us understand that emotional pain stems from our perspective.  Looking at love as a scientific process by which we connect, helps us detach from the pain of its loss.  Sometimes we become obsessed with our interpretation of love rather than seeing love as a natural path to forming bonds with others.  This obsession increases our pain because we forget that our experiences are a series of chemical changes.  Forgetting that these chemical changes are what makes us feel love is dangerous because we lose site of the fact that we control our emotions. Not controlling our emotions can send us into a tailspin of depression - not good.

So how do we overcome depression and convert all these feelings into a more sane point of view?  Science!  Yes, the more we understand about love and how it affects us, the more confident we become when trying to control emotional pain.  Forming a physical bond with someone takes place because of chemical changes in our minds.  If these chemical changes are a process, then a simple recalibration of those reactions will help us cope.  The more you know about love the better.

We see this love reaction as a spiritual voyage, a gift from above - a journey towards our destiny.  That is all well and good when we are in a relationship. If we are in a midst of a break up, on the other hand, then that kind of thinking can lead to depression.  It leads to depression because we feel that destiny, God or the universe is letting us down.  Fortunately, that is not true.  Love is a series of chemical reactions that help us feel things we typically enjoy.  Breakups, by the same token, are a series of events that break down the memories of those chemical reactions.  By viewing love and the loss as chemical processes we begin to see the solutions that help us cope. One solution of course is that these chemical reactions can be triggered again by other relationships. The same reactions are triggered by other types of love.

Yes, looking forward to another, new and meaningful relationship helps us trigger these same chemical reactions, lowering the risk of depression.  Looking forward to a healthy and meaningful relationship can also trigger what we like to call our, “single mode”.  This single mode is when we are most capable of taking care of ourselves.  In “single mode” we often go out of our way to eat right, look good and sound great.  Why?  We evolved to breed, to mate and to get along with others.  By loosing our mate an ancient instinct kicks in that prepares us to hunt and gather.  At this point we are ready for action.  It is natural to look and feel good after a traumatic event .  It is natural because we, the human race, are survivors.  We evolved to survive such events in our lives.  Knowing all this, can help you trigger this instinct to become stronger while we are single to attract other mates.  Isn’t nature amazing?  We think it is, so get out there and start looking ahead to more interactions with people you find attractive. Or better yet, find people that you love on any level.

Please keep in mind that the love reaction can also be triggered by spending time with people you love in other ways.  Family and friends come into play at this stage, so call your family or friends that you consider family.  These people with help you cope and reinvigorate you ability to take chances with the newness of your life.  Love for your family and friends provides the same chemical reactions that made you happy in your previous relationship.  Never underestimate the power of love…

“Cupid’s chemicals
Flushed cheeks, a racing heart beat and clammy hands are some of the outward signs of being in love. But inside the body there are definite chemical signs that cupid has fired his arrow…”

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