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Breaking Up with Your Job, or Just On a Break?

Your belly’s getting bigger and bigger at work as your due date approaches. And you’re still plugging away at your job, wanting to give everything you can before you are forced to leave to officially become a first-time mother. From that day on, you know your focus will always be divided between the paid job and the unpaid job of being a mom. As with a real relationship that feels like it’s coming to an end, you go into denial and refuse to think through the idea of actually leaving your job for good.

Men of a Certain Age Know About Breakups and Brotherhood

I looked in the mirror this morning and what I saw inspired me to seek comfort, somewhere, anywhere. I found that comfort in the new TNT series “Men of a Certain Age”. The show marks Ray Romano’s return to TV – but who cares about that, honestly? A guy with 500 mil going back to work ain’t that exciting. What’s important about this show is that it looks at breakups from the perspective of guys who are at an age where life is a series of reflections. It’s not just “Am I with the right woman?” anymore. It’s “Am I in the right place in my LIFE? Did I date the right women before I was with this woman? Am I ever gonna date any other women? Do women I’m never gonna date even WANNA date me?” and perhaps most painfully, “Why does THAT guy still get to date women??”

BreakUp Inspired Mohawk Matt to Launch BOLT BARBERS

I was in a very unhealthy marriage….and it was unhealthy for both parties, not just for me. The more I tried to please, the more she tried to change me. Founding a barbershop and cutting hair had long been on my “bucket list,” along with getting tattooed and mohawked. But as a “corporate citizen” working for companies like Danone, Novartis, P&G, & Benckiser, I knew better than to reveal my true self for the sake of my career. The breakup of the marriage actually triggered a complete self assessment of my life top to bottom, and I realized I needed to re invent myself and start listening to my stomach instead of to my head.

Top Ten Reasons to Break Up

Although this may be counter-intuitive to our readers, BreakUpService.com is not about promoting the termination of relationships. BUS, at its core, is about looking at the end of a relationship for what it truly is, an opportunity: an opportunity to use the pain and trauma of the break-up to motivate yourself to create positive change and ultimately a relationship with yourself that enables a more successful connection and relationship in the future others. With that in mind, we felt compelled to create a definitive list of reasons to break up.

Going from Marienbad

I saw lovers on the U-Bahn
Pressed against each other like nesting birds.
I read maps that showed the way
From Alexanderplatz to Marienbad.
In the morning, my grandfather took his tea
From a glass cup, and looked at Germany.
When night came, we walked the maze of Berlin
He spread his umbrella beneath the sky.
In the glow of storefronts, I saw [...]

“Before or after the wedding?” That is the question…or is it?

You Ask: If I’m sure I want to break up, how do I do it in the most honest and compassionate way? Do I break up before I go and not go to the wedding, or do I wait until I see him in person, and break up after the wedding? I still care about him – and really love him, even – just not enough to continue the relationship with no light at the end of the tunnel.

We reply: To what light are you referring? Is there a place that you believe exists with the “right person” at which you are ready for commitment, where all your ducks are in a row so it’s time to take the plunge? I hate to break this to you but such a place does not exist, no matter how ambitious or well prepared one thinks they are…

Super Good BreakUp: India-style

What you should fear more than the unknown is the life that you would lead, and the precious time that you would waste, clinging to this weight that is dragging you down. Your girlfriend expects you to take her back, and the sad truth is she probably respects you a little less every time you do. There is no advice that will convince you that you deserve better or some technique that will assure that you follow through on the breakup. Nope, all there is is a challenge to do what is best, or the decision to do what is easiest. That is the choice here, it is really that simple…

Relationship Algebra

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but that ship has sailed, that horse has left the barn, that s@#% has hit the fan. The friendship was gone when your feelings were all that mattered and you did not stop to think that this could cause some irreparable damage to somebody. What should you do now? Well, really, the only thing that you can do is learn from this situation…

The Everlasting Breakup

Ever since I first fell in love with my man eight years ago, I keep having the same dream about us breaking up. This dream has evolved through the different phases of our lives together, but the emotions are always the same…

To Make Up Or Break up, Is That The Question?

“My relationship is rocky, but what if I want to save my relationship” you ask? Perfect, I knew you would go there! Part of life is nothing more than a series of mistakes and learned lessons; it’s as inevitable as death and taxes and about as much fun.

Reading Is Healing

Want to heal that broken heart? Read and listen to music. I know it sounds simple, but it makes a huge difference. Crying is cathartic, so induce it with a good book and great music.

The science behind it all

The Everlasting Breakup

Ever since I first fell in love with my man eight years ago, I keep having the same dream about us breaking up. This dream has evolved through the different phases of our lives together, but the emotions are always the same…

The Brain in Love

“The heart wants what it wants.” I can’t tell you how this phrase has helped me over the years. In trying to romance a woman, or in trying to break up with her, this simple statement has worked its way into conversation more times than I can recall. So, you can imagine how distressed I [...]

Break up or stay together? The answer is, yes…

Most breakups occur once they are initiated whether couples want to stay together or not.  The trick is to know your situation despite what you intend to do.  This break up momentum is mostly due to a loss of trust.  That loss is difficult to overcome, but not impossible.  How do you know if [...]